We have to be so careful not to offend!

Someone recently asked me, “What is your background?” I actually thought she had noticed my Oklahoma accent; but no, she was inquiring about my educational and professional history. She wanted to know if I had a clue about what I had just said. I responded by saying I was white and American Indian and changed the subject. I am sorry to say I was, in fact, mildly offended.

I now have removed that chip from my shoulder.

Just making small talk these days is fraught with peril!

Check out these “triggers to avoid”:

WHAT ‘MICROAGGRESSIONS’ SOUND LIKE

A sampling of language and behaviors called “microaggressions,” provided to Clark University students, that universities are urging students to avoid.

“Of course he’ll get tenure, even though he hasn’t published much — he’s black.”

“What are you? You are so interesting looking.”

Telling a nonwhite woman, “I would have never guessed that you were a scientist.”

When a nonwhite faculty member is mistaken for a service worker.

Showing surprise when a “feminine” woman says she is a lesbian.

“You are a credit to your race.”